It is said that parenting is the hardest and most important job there is. And it doesn't come with an instruction manual or with any training!
A life coach can give you the guidance that will make your job a little easier, and help you become the best parent you can be!
What is parenting coaching?There are many parenting programs, support groups, and life coaches that work with parents of young children. At XF Coaching, we specialize in working with parents of pre-teens, teenagers, and young adults who have executive functioning deficits, including:
- Drug or alcohol addiction
- and those who are struggling with the transition from dependence to independence.
We can help you evaluate what's working and what's not, and provide you with support, guidance, tips, tools and training that utilize your strengths and build skills in the areas in which you struggle. We also have a synchronized support program where we work with therapists and counselors to give you the 360 degree approach. Learn more about synchronized support for parents.
Our goal is to empower you in overcoming the parenting challenges you are experiencing.
We can help you to build healthy, functional, rewarding relationships with your children, and to strengthen your family as a whole. We will teach you practical, effective techniques, and show you how to apply them to the real-life parenting situations you face.
If you are a single parent, you may feel particularly overwhelmed bearing the sole responsibility for raising your child. With a parenting coach, you can have a partner on your team to support and you as you navigate your way through each new stage and challenge.
You don't have to do it alone! We are here to help.
Call us today at (831) 332-0040 for a FREE parent coaching session! We'll help you take your parenting skills to the limits you thought were yours, to a life you didn’t know you could have.
What are some of the goals of parenting coaching?
- Align your expectations with the wants and needs of your child
- Create clear, realistic goals that you and your child both agree on
- Learn how to support your child without enabling him/her
- Develop healthy boundaries between you and your child
- Gain greater understanding of your child's needs and challenges
- Increase communication between you and your child, and create healthy communication patterns
- Implement effective and consistent means of discipline
- Reduce conflict and increase cooperation
Coaching for parents of teens and young adults with Executive Functioning Deficit Disorder (EFDD), including ADD and Asperger'sParenting is hard enough, but if you are a parent whose child has executive functioning deficits, as can be seen in such disorders as ADD or Asperger's, you are faced with an additional level of challenge. Your child may have had these issues for some time, but as they get older and their responsibilities increase, additional support and guidance for you and for them may be needed. Their struggles affect the family as a whole, and in turn, there may be family dynamics in place that are unknowingly contributing to the problem.
If your child is suffering from executive functioning deficits, it can be hard to know what are appropriate expectations. Perhaps your child is using their EFDD as an excuse not to do all they are capable of. It may be difficult to decipher what are the challenges of EFDD verses a lack of motivation and avoidance.
An executive functioning parenting coach can provide an objective perspective on how to support someone with EFDD. We can give you tools to help your child to build important life skills, such as:
- Thinking and responding flexibly
- Task initiation
- Time management
- Planning and prioritizing time and activities
As parents, we want to watch our children grow and become independent and self-sufficient. Our aim as coaches is to give you and your child the needed support to achieve that goal. Because there is a wide spectrum of how EFDD affects a person, different types and levels of support are needed for each individual. We tailor our interventions to meet the unique challenges you, your child, and your family are facing. For those who are severely affected by EFDD, complete self-sufficiency may not be realistic, but our goal is to help your child achieve as much independence as possible. Providing guidance, education, and support to you and to your whole family can be a key factor in your child's success in overcoming his or her obstacles.
Coaching for parents of young adults in transition from dependence to independence
The transition from childhood to adulthood can bring new challenges to your relationship with your child. As your child gets older they want to be more independent, but might not have all the tools necessary to do so. They may want and need your help, but at the same time they don't want to need it. This can be hard for both you and them, and may create conflict and a power struggle between you. We can provide you and your child with the guidance and support needed to successfully navigate this transition, and help your child learn the tools they need to achieve the independence they are seeking.
Coaching for parents of teens and young adults with drug or alcohol addiction
If you are the parent whose child is struggling with alcohol or drug addiction, you may feel scared, helpless, and overwhelmed. You may not know how to best support and help your child, or how to take care of yourself and the rest of your family. Whether your child is in treatment, just got out of treatment, or is stuck in their abuse of drugs or alcohol, we're here to help. We can:
- Explain behaviors that you may not understand
- Give you tools to help your child in a way that is supportive and not enabling
- Teach you to set limits and boundaries
- Educate you on what addicted behaviors are and the signs to look for
- Help you find the right treatment program for your child
- Guide you in what to do after your child completes the program
Drug and alcohol addiction profoundly affect the whole family, and are complex issues requiring a multifaceted approach. We can help you navigate and manage the parenting challenges it brings with it, and provide you with guidance and support to help your child in their recovery, while taking care of you and the rest of your family.
Coaching for parents with executive functioning deficits
If you are a parent with your own executive functioning deficits, the responsibilities of parenthood can feel particularly overwhelming. And each new stage of parenthood presents its own new challenges! You may have learned to cope with your issues well enough to take care of yourself, but with the responsibility of caring for another person, these issues may feel especially difficult, and you may need extra support to cope with them.
Perhaps organizing, planning ahead, and time management are struggles for you. As a parent, you not only need to plan your own schedule, you now need to plan your child's schedule and coordinate it with your own. And if you have more than one child, this becomes even more complicated to do! You may find it difficult to juggle multiple tasks, and to prioritize and manage your time effectively in order to do so. With the responsibilities of parenthood, you have to plan meals, compile the grocery list, do the shopping, prepare the meals, do the laundry, clean the house, make sure your child has all their materials for school and is out the door for school on time... The list of responsibilities can feel endless! Even for parents who do not have EFDD, the tasks and responsibilities of parenthood can feel overwhelming; for those who do, additional support can be particularly needed. We are here to give you that extra support.
Help for your parenting challenges is on its way. You don't have to do it alone!
As a parent, where do you turn when you need education and guidance? Friends and family members can support us, but may not have the objectivity, information or tools we need. There are parenting classes, but they teach general information, and after the class is over you're on your own. They don't provide instruction that is specific to your unique family situation and needs, and they don't offer you ongoing support as you try to implement what you've learned. Parenting coaching does all of these things. We evaluate your family's specific needs, give you tailor-made techniques and tools, and support you along the way as you utilize these new skills.
It is said that It takes a village to raise a child. We can be your little village. Give yourself the gift of a parenting coach to help your child achieve his or her full potential, and to help you be the best parent you can be!
XF Coaching coaches parents of teens and young adults with executive functioning disorders in Santa Cruz, Capitola, Soquel, Aptos, Scotts Valley, Watsonville, Monterey, San Jose, Los Gatos, Saratoga and all of Santa Clara County. We also work remotely over the phone and with Skype.